- irregular: independent in behavior or thought; "she led a somewhat irregular private life"; "maverick politicians"
- breaking with convention or tradition; "an unorthodox lifestyle"
So my boyfriend (who happens to, unconventionally, be the father to my 2 gorgeous children) asked me to marry him. So now it's time for me to plan a wedding. I love planning parties, I've planned farm themed birthday parties with hay rides, 3-d barn cakes surrounded by hay bale cupcakes, and pigs in a blanket; A Runway Show birthday with a runway, dressing room, and a shimmering tiered cake... and I've done it all at a pretty good budget. I tend to have a knack for working on a budget. It's more of a challenge, and I have more fun. How fun is it to place an order for all the matching accessories and receive it all in one big box?
So when it came to planning my wedding I was really excited... until I turned to the 'net for inspiration. Wedding gowns, 2grand... WHAT?! Average cost of a wedding... 25 gs holy crap! That's not even including the rings and honeymoon. Okay, I'm thinking, I am not going to spend more money impressing and feeding a bunch of people then I do on a honeymoon with me and my new husband. And I'm not spending a typical year's salary on the ordeal either.
So I set out on my quest for a beautiful, memorable, "just like me" wedding and my budget is $3,000.
One more thing, why is it that I go to all of these forums and chats and I'm talking to these women who sound like they have been doing this wedding thing for years! Why do I feel so new at this?? And why does it all seem so cookie cutter? "so now's the time where you and your mother in law go pick a venue" "now's the time where your maid of honor has this ready.." and after that is the time when you turn in to bridezilla because you expected everyone's world to revolve around your wedding. Seriously. Don't these women realize that so many big things are going to happen in their lives? I just don't get it. Personally, my maid of honor works graveyards. And I'm not going to have someone other than my sister standing next to me as my maid of honor because she doesn't have time to drop everything and be my personal assistant. She has shit to do! And I don't don't expect my mother in law to take a second out on her house so she can pay for "her part". I don't they expect that either. Do these other women just come across as completely uncapable girls who are not complete until they have married, so that occasion has to be huge, like the induction in to life. Welcome to life ladies, now you can finally live... Pfff... Maybe it's because I'm a mother. I'm a fully capable woman who can, not only plan my wedding, but can also raise 2 amazing children along with the man of my dreams. So we celebrate that love and that bond with a ceremony. And that's what it is, a celebration of our love. And there are lots of people in love. So unless we want to turn this whole town in to a huge celebration (which I'm not opposed to), I will treat the day as it should be treated- A really exciting day to introduce my whole extended family and friends to my amazing other half.
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